I Miss Him
Soul guide for healing and moving on
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Moving on from someone is not easy, it is a painful process that is necessary to get rid of all feelings you have for someone. Regardless of you story, you are hurting and you need to heal, you need to get back to your joyful self !
Worry about nothing, you have survived a lot worse before. No matter how bad it gets it will eventually be fine. You might doubt your abilities to navigate life or find happiness again, these doubts are normal and simply not true, you will find happiness again, it’s a matter of time.
Letting go is a complicated scary journey, it starts with acceptance, and it ends with freedom. This requires determination to overcome the pain, and faith that everything is possible even a new life and new love. Do not give up, and listen to your mind do not listen your heart.
Reasons to move on
Space
Moving on from someone will give you all the space you need to heal, rethink all your life choices, plan your future, building yourself psychologically and physically, and finally meet the one true love that truly deserve you.
Self-Discovery
Allows you to rediscover who you are outside of that relationship.
Freedom
Frees you from anything associated with that person & gives you unlimited choices.
Life Goals
Gives you the time to focus on your personal goals & work towards achieving them.
Improved Mental Health
Brings you a sense of calm, reduced anxiety, and relaxation.
Healing
Heals your old wounds and scars that is causing most of the pain.
Self-Care
Motivates you to take care of yourself and pay more attention to your well-being.
Love
Every second you waste on this heart breaking story you are stealing precious time from your future happiness, don't give in for pain, it's time to move on because the true love is outside waiting for you.
But, why losing a relationship hurts so much?
Relationships form the basis of meaning in our lives. And not just your interpersonal relationships, but even the relationships you have with your job or your identity or your possessions. But because humans rely so much on our social lives to survive and thrive, our relationships with each other carry an extra special weight.
Therefore, when you lose a relationship, especially one that was so important and central to your everyday life, you lose that associated meaning. And to lose meaning is to lose a part of yourself. So all of these things are intimately connected — your relationships, your sense of meaning and purpose, and your perception of who you are.
That feeling of emptiness we all feel when we lose someone we love is actually a lack of meaning and lack of identity. There is, quite literally, a hole inside of ourselves. Everything becomes a blank void, empty of any real purpose, and we might even begin to wonder if there’s really any point to life at all.
If you wallow in this kind of thinking for too long, you end up clinging to the past, desperately trying to “fix” everything to somehow get your old life back.
But the hard pill to swallow here is this: part of you is now dead and gone. It’s time to accept that and start rebuilding your life so you can move on.
Mark Manson
How to move on
Stage One: Powering Up
You have to do these steps in order, ASAP.
Acceptance
Accept that the relationship has ended and it's time to move on.
Limit Contact
Eliminate contact with that person unless it's absolutely necessary.
Block them
Block them on Social Media, Do NOT check their social profiles in anyway.
Declutter
Giveaway, donate, or throw away all physical items that reminds you of them.
Letting Go Ritual
Perform a symbolic act of letting go, like releasing a balloon.
Forgiveness
Search in your heart, then forgive them, move on and never look back.
Stage Two: Healthy Habits
Pick at least two or more of these and start practicing daily.
Hiking
Connect with nature by hiking safe local trails near you.
Painting
Grab a pencil and start drawing or attend a painting class.
Dance
Either by yourself or in a class, dance away your pain and unleash your soul.
Cooking
Learn new recipes and flavors, enjoy the taste of your own.
Exercise
Working out is the best on the list, not only you would sweat out the pain, but you would look fit and become healthy.
Journaling
Write down your thoughts, feelings, cooping mechanisms, and triggers.
Volunteering
Helping others will give a lot of happiness you really need right now.
Gardening
Planting a sprout and watching it grow is very inspiring. pick an easy plant to maintain.
Reading
Read a physical book, or a digital through your phone or tablet.
Stage Three: Winds Of Change
Start these changes whenever you feel strong enough.
Home Makeover
Redecorate your home & rearrange your furniture.
Personal Style
Change your haircut, dye your hair, and get your nails done.
Health Check
Get a full health check-up, and visit the dentist.
Stage Four: Socially Ready
Once you establish stable grounds, it's time to leave your bubble and socialize a bit.
Join a Social Club
Weather it's a book club, or poetry club. find something new and exciting.
Positive People
Surround yourself with positive and uplifting people, & cut ties with negative ones.
Be Yourself
Do not change for someone else, unless it's something for the better.
Conclusion
Be kind to yourself and to your heart, don’t rush change or move on too fast, slow but steady steps are the best practice throughout all aspects of life. Moving on is a journey, and it’s okay to take it slow, so be patient and have a full faith in yourself that with time things will get better.
If you find this guide helpful save it somewhere safe, bookmark the page or send it to yourself, get back to it as much as you need, whenever you need, and for any reason.
Finally, I really hope you find happiness and peace in your heart, achieve your dreams, and get whatever you are looking for in the best way imaginable.